Body Image

When you look at yourself in the mirror what does the voice in your head say?

I focus so much on wellness and how I physically feel, the energy I have, the foods I eat and the importance of the choices I make and yet for me, all of those things are in no way shape or form driven by body image.

Perhaps you find that hard to believe? Well that’s why I am writing this blog, to share with you the story behind that comment in the hopes that it will be impactful for you in your own life and maybe inspire you to look at things a little differently. It was only by doing that myself that everything changed.

What exactly IS Body Image?

Body Image is how we SEE, FEEL, THINK and BEHAVE as it relates to our bodies – our shape, weight and perceived ‘looks’. Impacted to a huge degree by the media, books, curated Instagram feeds and perfect celebrities.

Most people have no idea how good their body is designed to feel. ~Kevin Trudeau

My Journey

I began my journey to greater health while EXCLUDING my weight and my looks as a focus. Yup. I actually flat out said that weight loss was NOT on the table when I started my challenge.

Don’t get me wrong, I had loooooonnngg wanted to lose weight and did not have a positive body image at all but nothing else had worked up till then so I decided to change things up a bit and focus on what was really the driving force behind everything; for me it was Energy, or the lack thereof.

I gave myself this permission to not focus on the weight by telling myself that IF after this challenge I hadn’t lost a single pound but I FELT stronger, more alive and with ENERGY that I’d be completely OK. This wasn’t “just talk”, it came from deep in my gut. In order to set myself up for success and not quit after the 1st week when the numbers on the scale didn’t change, I knew I truly had to be okay with it. Then I said I’d be able to tackle the weight and hit the gym, once I had the energy.

Interestingly enough, letting go of the mental anxiety about my weight, the never-ending beating myself up about it and hating the reflection in the mirror made a HUGE difference in my mental state. I really started to change the story I was telling myself. I grew to deeply appreciate my body. As I changed my eating habits I could see just how AMAZING my body has been for soooo many years taking care of me while I wasn’t even giving it the best tools to do so.

I could feel my body respond and heal with every passing day, it was exciting and so deeply inspiring.

The weight started to fall off. I didn’t exercise. I didn’t count calories. And many days I actually pigged out.

Now when I look in the mirror I say “thank you, I love you. You are beautiful and so amazing and I appreciate that you never let me down”.

Am I the weight I’d like to be? Nope. Will I ever be? Who knows. Perhaps the target will continue to change. Am I perfectly shaped like the curated Influencer feeds on Instagram? Nope. You say “But you look great, you’ve lost tons of weight, OF COURSE you feel better about yourself!”. True, I did lose a lot of weight, it took time and dedication though as like I said, weight loss wasn’t the goal and yet I know that the ONLY reason I did was because first I let go and secondly I started telling myself a different story.

My challenge to you is this:

Pay attention to what you are telling yourself. Change the story first, follow that up with daily actions (however big or small) and choices, that demonstrate you DO love yourself and your amazing body and watch what happens….Magic. Your life will change in ways you can’t even begin to imagine! Mine sure did.

I am writing a book on the full story of my journey to share the details and document it for posterity so I never forget. But I wanted to share a bit of it here, now, as I see so many people around me struggling, hiding in their clothes and looking for the one right diet. I urge you – don’t wait! Start now. Make a simple change, do one thing each day to show love, compassion and grace to yourself. Then please come back and tell me about your experience so I can celebrate with you!

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Its Time to Get Serious

What are you holding on to that is holding you back?? 

Here’s what I discovered…

My story starts by sharing that my husband and I are on a life changing journey this year and regards my eating habits I decided to be All In. What does that mean? 

I’ve taken challenges off the table and said goodbye to meat, to added sugar, to processed white & wheat flours (breads, pastries and pastas) and most recently decided that a LIFEstyle, not a diet, of Raw & Living Foods was where I wanted to be. 

Why, you ask? Great question! 

Stay with me as I back up and detour for a second to explain. 

I listened to a podcast (I love road trips!) by The Raw Chef, who I’ve followed for several years and he shared an interview he did where the conversation was on “raw” vs “living” and what those terms meant. The comment was made that being all “raw” is a calling and to be committed to it you have to know why you’re doing it. What do you want out of it? Does eating that cooked meal every two weeks ruin it? Are you looking for a title? You can still be unbalanced and unhealthy eating raw so knowing WHY you are doing whatever you are doing/eating is key. 

Me, I want to FEEL life running through my veins. I want passion, vibrancy, clarity and increased consciousness. I want an unstoppable zest for life- Joie de Vivre! 

Having said that…maybe you’re wondering if I will ever eat meat again? 

Well, I’ll answer that in two parts. 

For the first- as part of that whole increased awareness thing you get with healthy eating, I don’t see how I could forget again where meat comes from. My whole life prior to this point it was so easy to disassociate an Arby’s roast beef sandwich from the animal who gave its life for me. It was how I grew up. It was what I knew. It was normal. Maybe that roast beef is not even real meat anymore, who knows. ? I do still remember how YUMMY they taste. 

But somewhere along this journey I lost that learned disassociation and now when I see a cow or pig in a livestock hauler it makes me cry, knowing they will never get to live out their life and die a natural death after raising a family living free in nature. 

Am I humanizing them? ??‍♀️ All I can say is have you ever looked into their eyes? There’s sentience to be found. A soul. An awareness.  

Secondly, I feel amazing. My body keeps telling me what works and what doesn’t and I’m learning to listen. Quinoa pasta used to be an awesome replacement for semolina pasta, now it weighs me down and makes my brain dull. Meat is on that list too. ?

So to simply answer the question: I’m CHOOSING to feel amazing and respect sentient life. 

Back to my original point ?, I have identified a couple things holding me back from being All In that I am taking steps to correct. 

One is Cookbooks. I have several with meat, dairy, sugar and flour based recipes. When I’m hungry and looking for a new flavor having those on the shelf is NOT helpful. It’s like a safety net that I can go back to if my new eating lifestyle doesn’t work out. Well, I’ve gone through and cleaned everything out. 

I only kept a few of what I call “Memory Recipes”, handwritten ones from my mom, the dessert I made for my husband when were were dating, the Hawaiian cookbook that belonged to my husbands parents…

To put something together to store them all will be Phase 2.

It feels a little like I’ve renewed my vows. Lol. I feel lighter and more sure of my path. Still need to go through a few magazines and newer cookbooks I bought this year to lighten even more. That’ll be phase 3. ☺️

The second thing holding me back is The Pantry. Inside my much loved walk in pantry I have contriband items, like canned organic black beans, a jar of organic, no added sugar, marinara sauce, a box of edamame pasta. I’ve pulled them all out and lined them up on the counter. They will be eaten this week or else. 


I’ll use this coming week to search for new raw recipes, planning out raw meals, dehydrating/making some staple raw items and getting more organized. My Tuesday “In The Kitchen” cooking show will be fun! I think Smoky Kimchi is on the menu. ? Maybe I’ll even tackle dog treats. ?

Anyone up for helping me organize and decorate my pantry? ?? 

Having The Pantry all done up right will be a commemoration and celebration of my, our, new lifestyle. I’m excited to get started!! 

So there’s my story. ? 

I encourage you to step back for a minute and take stock of your life. What things could be acting as a crutch and slowing you down from achieving your dreams? They could be tiny and seemingly innocent, like my cookbooks. I’d love to hear what you discover and how you feel after removing the crutch! 

Cheers to the journey! 

Joie to Your Health and Mine! ??❤️?

The Beginning…

My 87 Day Adventure begins, as my adventures often do, with a random thought that caught fire. A moment of self-reflection that turned into “what if” as my thoughts went down the rabbit hole and a decision was made only yesterday, that begins today….